Thursday, March 19, 2009

Take a compliment

Mark Twain said, "I can live for two months on a good compliment."

What's the best compliment you've received lately? Ever?

In November I took Jesse for a haircut. Simon tagged along. Jesse sat so nicely draped in his racecar robe while the girl trimmed his hair. Meanwhile I sat in a chair with an overhead hair dryer chatting with the stylists while I snuggled, kissed and munched on Simon. About 10 minutes in, the owner of the shop stopped working on the head of hair in front of her and said to me with a huge smile, "It's obvious you really enjoy your children."

Wow. What a compliment.

When Jesse is on my last nerve and Simon's whining seems unending, I remember that compliment and try to enjoy my children as much as I do on a good day when everyone's happy and full of smiles.

What have you been complimented on? Take that compliment to heart. Next time you're frustrated or pissed off, next time you screw something up or feel like nothing can go your way, when that moody friend stops talking to you for no apparent reason, your husband acts like a total dolt, your mother gets on your nerves, your boss is a pain... Think of your best compliment. Take heart! You are good at something, you are a good person, you do something well.

Take a compliment.


Momma Miller said...

How weird. I visited your blog earlier today, came to comment and I guess I got side-tracked. So...I'm baa-aaack!

WOW, that IS a great compliment! One of my favorites from a couple years ago was, "You always seem so happy to be a mommy!" This came from another neighborhood mom and at a crucial time in my motherhood--right as I was facing some serious PPD.

Needless to say, I do believe whole-heartedly that compliments, from those we respect (and who know us well), are vital to our emotional health. We really should spend our days seeking ways to build one another up--our friends, our children, and our spouses. I'm glad you've reminded me of that today!

Let's see...recently, you ask? Most recently Just when I'm ready to be done with grad school (so I can sit at home eating bon-bons and blogging all day, yeah right) I have had several graduate professors spur me on to more academic work by saying things about me being a "deep thinker" or having "a brain obviously built for PhD work." I don't know some days. Finishing two master's degrees while raising three very young children has definitely made me question whether I'm reaching my breaking point. I may have a brain built for doctoral work, but will my sleepless "mothering" body live through the journey? LOL

Momma Miller said...

:headdesk: I didn't know I was typing an entire blog post in your comments! I got distracted and, well, there ya have it. Sorry. :o\

Life with Pog said...

You're right -- we need to accept compliments just as they are. The other day, my husband told me I was a great mom. Then he actually cited specific examples of why he thought that. I was so happy I would burst!